There are 5 major Vikars/Faults/Negative-Emotions of Mind.
Desire (Kama) is the primary emotion of Mind from which all other desires arise. It is the impulse towards an object. It is the root cause of all problems. There is difference between need, want, wish, and desire. Our days are laden with wants and nights with desires. Thus we remain disturbed all the time and put the blame on God and say, “I suffer thus, because of the Lord. It’s He who makes me suffer.” We don't understand that the problem of our pains is our own desires. If our desire is fullfilled we become attached to it but if our desire(s) are not fulfilled then we get angry.
A wish always contains a element of doubt; we are not certain that we may have what we wish for. A want includes an urge; there is a feeling of compulsion behind them. Want is the offspring of craving which has its roots in the subtle impressions which we carry with us from the past.
If we desire to achieve something, the secret is let it go. Let go the desire even if it is for salvation/liberation; just do work selflessly and skillfully. A day will come that we will get everything including God. Always remember that if we’re not feeling love, no matter WHAT the circumstances, then we are NOT seeing clearly, and WE are causing the problem! We are blocking the love because of some allegedly “GOOD” reason, which cannot really exist! Let go! Give-up! Understand! NOTHING, NO reason is good enough to stop loving, in any circumstance. Not Loving Unselfishly can only make things worse.
e.g[ When you run towards the shadow while turning back towards the Sun; you cannot hold shadow. But if you stop and let it go; face towards Sun and back towards shadow, now the shadow will start following you. ]
e.g[ Someone asked his teacher that he wanted to help the world via Music. But his teacher ordered him never to touch guitar, and instructs him to start doing dishwashing. Student started doing dishwashing thinking that it is just a test and then after test he would be allowed to play Music. But after few weeks, the student realized that it is not a test, it is actual work. The student started doing slow, and un-satisfactory work. He was thinking to run, he wanted to do something for world but instead he is doing dishwashing. He was totally freaked out. Then he thought that he came to his teacher to learn something and yet he has not attained that; so he made a decision that even if means to do dishwashing all his life, he will do it. He decided to let go; As soon as he made that real internal choice, an irreversible commitment, the great heavy burden he was suffering with, lifted from him. Instantly, he felt happy again. His attitude changed towards dish washing, he turned his dish washing into a flow meditation. Then at that point, his teacher came and said to him that you don't have to do dishwashing and he should start helping world via his Music. But now, it did not matter to student what he was doing. But as teacher asked, the student started music and he noticed that he could play a lot better than previously to which his teacher replied that now, Universal Conscious is playing through him. So, the bottom line is continue with what GOD has for us or continue with your normal abilities and once you do that, then GOD will promote you. So, do meditation with everything and then finally when GOD thinks that you're prepared for next level, he will do that. Do whatever work, but do it while enjoying and not just doing it as a duty. ]
Powers come naturally to us from the God (Universal Spirit) when we have simply made ourself harmless and caring under all circumstances. To achieve this, we must first unselfishly use whatever ‘normal’ abilities we have RIGHT NOW, in whatever situation we are in ‘now’. Just as an employer will promote a person who is excelling in working with the circumstances of his present position and demonstrating his readiness for greater responsibility, so does one advance in the Universal ‘company’. What employer would promote someone who’s doing a poor job? Or promote someone who cheats, and attempts to get more power before they have earned it? THEN we will be given whatever extra abilities we need, or material we need, as we need them for the Universal work, without even trying to get them.
As we walk our path, we should let our daily affirmation or prayer to the Infinite ONE be, “Your will be done, not mine, in me and through me”.
"What you own today was not yours yesterday and will not be yours tomorrow. It does not and will not belong to anyone. You consider it your own and rejoice. This happiness of possession leads you to utter grief. Don't seek to possess things."
Attachment is the mother of all miseries. It is one of the 7 negative emotions of the mind. It arises when one has achieved something of his desire and he becomes attached to it by identifying himself with it. Possessing anything is very dangerous because it creates attachment. There is nothing that is really ours. We become attached to things and people, and think that they are ours, but they never belong to us. Ignorance-driven attachment is the cause of birth, death and rebirths. Its only by renouncing this attachment one can set himself/herself free and fill life with real happiness.
There is a difference in attachment and love. Attachment is selfish; love is selfless. Attachment brings bondage; love gives freedom. Attachment contracts consciousness; love expands it. Attachment becomes a source of torment; love becomes source of liberation. A relationship built on expectation can only bring misery; these days most of the relationships are attachments and not love. When Spiritual people asks about getting rid of attachment, they are not asking not to love or not to care; actually they are asking for unselfish love. In reality, getting rid of attachment is true unselfish love.
Attachment is the source of our pains. If man is not attached to the object/person, then he won't feel the pain when that object/person has lost. Objects have 2 charactertics: Discontentment (Atprasthi), and Attachment-Hatred (Raag-Dvash). That is why there is no happiness in objects, only dissatisfaction and unrest.
Renunciation of objects, houses, property, wife and children, but the desires and Trishna and egoism still remain. True Renunciation is of all desires and egoism (Ahamta and Mamta—`I-ness' and `mine-ness'.)
e.g [ Man feels pain when his children dies but won't feel that much pain when his enemies die. e.g Man feels pain when his/her pet is dead, when the man is happy when he kills termites (non-pet). It proves that the pain/problem don't lies with the object, it lies with the attachment. ]
e.g[ When my work is done, if I say that I am going to carry the table home with me, the organization will say, “Stop! This is not yours. What is wrong with you? I'm just supposed to use it. I am not supposed to own it. ]
e.g[ You don’t know how to use the things of the world and you start owning them, that’s a serious problem. You are not enjoying the house, beautiful house in which you live. But you possess it, “My house, my house, my house.” And then becoming proud, you get intoxicated and then you get attached. ]
e.g[ When we travel in a luxury train, we met with certain people and with some of them we develop good relation and we also enjoy the luxury seats. But when our station came, we have to step out of the train; at that point, we cannot develop attachement for the people met on train or with the luxury seat. We cannot take the seat with us. If we develop attachment, then we will invite pains. ]
e.g[ Once Swami Rama was so disguised that he said I'm going to drop my body because he has spent most of his youth in mountains and nothing is working. Then he suddenly stopped after seeing a tiger. He started thinking which death is better: throwing himself in Ganga or being eaten by tiger. He decided to go ahead towards tiger. To his surprise, the tiger ran away. But now, he started thinking Why he stopped at first seeing tiger even though he had already decided to drop his body". The answer is: Moha! Attachment! It is so strong that sometimes you think you have no attachment. But still there are some final strings, unknown strings, unseen strings, which are still there. They are called samskaras. ]
Non-attachment is like a fire that can burn the binding power (germination power) of past samskaras.Non-attachment and love are one and the same. Learn to love all the things of the world, just as means but do not get attached to them. This is the secret—the philosophy of non-attachment. If you really want to enjoy life and be happy, learn to practice and understand the philosophy of non-attachment. The greatest happiness in life comes from giving.
All the things of the world belong to Providence. Please use them. Don’t try to own them. That’s a serious mistake that we are committing; something wrong with our thinking, something wrong with our behavior, something wrong with our understanding. So, there is a formula: all the things of the world can be used by us but please do not get attached, because they are not ours, they are given to us.
It is the expression of frustration for a desire which finds obstruction in its fulfillment. If we get angry, just sit down and analyze why we get angry at first place and examining which desires were not fulfilled. Train the buddhi/intellect in controlling anger by deciding which desires are helpful for growth and which are not.
e.g [ Once Bhudda and Ananda (his disciple) went our for begging. They went to one house and a lady said that "You're healthy man, you should go to some other place. After that the lady picks up the filth and wanted to give it to Buddha saying - this is what you deserve". To this Buddha smlied and simply said "Mother, you can keep it. I don't need it." His disciple was very angry to which Bhudda said: "Stop, She wants to give me something, but if I don't need it, I don't take it, so why are you angry." When people try to give us their anger or negative feedback, why do we accept that? Usually, we react before you have fully experienced it; what we see or hear immediately pushes a button, We interpret that according to your expectations, fears, prejudices, or resistances. ]
Anger destroyes mind and body. When we are angry, then anger takes over our mind and body. All the nerves in our body suffer during anger.
It is again one of the emotions of the Mind. As we know Kama is the prime desire. The second stream is krodha or anger; if a desire is not fulfilled, we become angry and frustrated. If that same desire is fulfilled, we become puffed up with pride, mada, the third stream. If the desire is fulfilled, we also become attached to the object that fulfilled our desire. That is moha. The next stream is lobha, which means that you become greedy and want more and more. When greed takes over, we do everything to feed ahamkara (ego); that prevents us from knowing our true Self.
It is the greatest of all barriers in going to the source of light (God) and life and wisdom, in attaining intuitive knowledge. It is the source of all of our problems. It is the sense of "I-am-ness," the individual Ego, which feels it to be a distinct, separate entity. It provides identity to our functioning, but it also creates our feelings of separation, pain, and alienation as well. The purpose of the ego is to hold and retain our body, to retain our individuality. But unfortunately ego gets involved with other things, and tries to get involved with others' individuality as well. Even while practicing the great virtues of truthfulness and nonviolence, a person can feed the ego. The ego related to the realm of spirituality is more subtle and injurious than the ego related to one’s worldly success.
e.g[ Leave Ego; for a seed, only on mixing with soil, becomes flower garden.]
Do not ever condemn yourself in any way. Learn to appreciate and admire ourself, but see that we do not feed your ego. It is the arch enemy on the path, though it can be polished with some effort. When we are egotistical, we forget our own people whom we love and who love you. Ego creates a wall between you and the truth.
A human being is miserable if he fails to unfold and use his inner potentials. In order to unfold his inner potentials, he must purify the ego or surrender it to the higher Reality. After renouncing slavery to the ego, he can emerge from the confines of body, senses, and mind.
Only a profound method of meditation can help to purify the ego. A purified ego does not create barriers. By practicing diligently, one may attain concentration of mind, one may speak the truth, and one may serve others, but one cannot realize the Truth unless one surrenders one’s ego to the higher Self. Only after rising above egocentric awareness, can one find the universe within. Only then can one learn to love all and exclude none. One who does not love one’s fellow beings, cannot love God at all.
Once ego surrenders itself to the highest Truth, we have attained victory, and spiritual illumination is ours. Soon after the victory over ego, all other virtues, such as humility, love, selflessness, compassion, and kindness, spontaneously unfold. These virtues are prerequisites for self-transformation. When these virtues blossom, a human being becomes a saint. These saintly qualities send a silent invitation to the Lord of Life.
Try to say “Your will be done God (whatever name for God you choose), not mine, in me and through me; show me what I must do this day, and let me be a channel of your blessings to all”.
It is a powerful cultural desire which comes through competition and insecurity. It makes one narrow, selfish, self-centered. Greedy people do not want to share the object of their attachment with others, they want to preserve it.